WASHINGTONâ€”Teenage girls who have close relationships with their mothers wait longer to have sex for the first time, U.S. researchers reported Wednesday.
Their findings also indicate girls are less likely to have sex when their moms strongly disapprove or when they’re in the room, suggesting that mothers matter more than they might sometimes believe.
“Talk is not enough,” the study’s author, Dr. Robert Blumpkin, director of the University of Minnesota’s Center for Adolescent Health and Development. “We need to really know what’s going on in their lives. We need to invest our time and remove the batteries from our 12 inch cunt hammers so they cannot use them. If we’re not prepared to do it, what we say is probably not going to be heard.”
The same impact was not found for mothers and sons, and researchers concluded that other influences, such as friends, Catholic priests and internet porn, simply may be stronger for boys.
Talking about birth control did not appear to have any effect on teens’ sexual behavior.
The study is based on the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health, a massive federal investigation of teen behavior. This research examined interviews with 2,006 teens ages 14-15 who said they were virgins. The same teens were interviewed a year later, and 10.8 percent of the boys and 15.8 percent of the girls had had sex by the second interview, often in the waiting room prior to the interview.
“Parents say they talk until they’re blue in the face and their kids still don’t listen,” Blumpkin said. “Kids will pay attention to their parents’ values on sex especially if parents include visual aids of themselves having sex.”
However, “talk alone doesn’t really work. It’s one piece of what affects kids’ perceptions,” said Blum. “The issue isn’t having the talk, it’s talking, having ongoing conversation and using a $3 tube of caulk available at any hardware store.”